Good morning, afternoon or evening. Today’s topic is my least favourite thing in the whole world yet my best enemy. Eh? Meet my good old friend, change.
Change is pretty relevant to all of us. We’ve all been through change both big and small. It’s particularly relevant to me right now as I’ve recently started a new job, a new voluntary position as a newsreader and will soon be starting as a new Journalism student in a matter of weeks.
Whilst this has been and is all very exciting, it’s been crazy amounts of change also known as my worst nightmare, and I’m sure some of you will agree with me on that one.
Nevertheless, I’ve learnt that change is the greatest teacher of them all. I’ve certainly learnt the most from change. Like all things in life, change comes in two forms – good and bad. What’s important to remember is that both teach us what we need to learn.
Bad experiences teach us the most and help shape us as people. When I say “shape”, I don’t mean that because you’ve had a bad experience with a bunch of people you instantly turn cold and nasty expecting others to treat you the same as you’ve been treated in the past. I mean they shape us positively. They make us so much stronger inside.
I personally, in my very tiny lifetime (19 years!!) so far, haven’t come across anybody who doesn’t at least get nervous at the thought of change. Why? Because change pushes us out of our cosy, comfort nests and locks the door on us. As the saying goes, nothing great ever came from comfort zones.
Every single thing that’s changed for me in my life has been a stepping stone to every next phase in my life, whether I’ve particularly welcomed that change or not. Most times the latter, unsurprisingly.
To keep our lives moving in the right direction, we need to change constantly. We naturally change our attitudes, change the way we think as we get older or go through different experiences.
Then there are big changes such as jobs, moving house, losing a family member, getting in to a new relationship, or meeting new friends and these seem to throw us off balance the most. What is unknown to us is immediately put under terrifying in the filing cabinets of our mind. I hope that makes sense?!
Change IS okay. Change CAN be your friend if you let it. It’s not always the big scary monster we make out to be.
Honestly, sometimes things do and will go wrong when change happens but I can assure you, from personal experience, it teaches you what you need to know and for a valid reason. Life being life, that reason is never clear to us at the time, which makes it harder to accept but you’ll soon see.
So how do we go about changing our relationship towards change?
I think a good start would be looking at all the change that’s happened in your life and mentally or physically – whichever works best for you – what it’s taught you, or how it’s helped you along the way.
This way we can appreciate change a little more and look back on our lives and see that things would be entirely different if that slight or big change hadn’t have occurred in our lives. Easier said than done I know, but this has helped me accept and welcome change a little bit more.
It doesn’t mean you have to falsely be happy that a change in your life happy but it does mean that for your own sake you can move on with your life and fear change a little less.
Remind yourself that change brings new opportunities, ALWAYS, it’s just a matter of looking out for them and taking each one that arises.
Know that no matter what happens, what changes in your lifetime, you’ll be okay. It might be hard or it might be the best time of your life, either way you’ll get through it and come out as a much better person.
Change – our worst enemy but greatest teacher.
I hope this has helped.
Ciao for now x