“I just wish I hadn’t bothered wasting my time”- are words majority of us will say or have said at some point in our lives. It’s frustrating and disheartening when you put a lot of time and effort into something- a job, person, project or other- for it to not work out as you’d planned.
When something doesn’t work out for us, we almost instantly brand it as a failure or a waste of time. Why? Because we’re unable to see the benefit of spending said time on said thing right away when we feel upset, angry or disappointed. And of course, it’s natural to feel that way.
Nobody wants a good thing to end. As the saying goes, hindsight is a wonderful thing and in this instance time can be a true healer. But, I promise you even the toughest of situations don’t last forever. Equally, whatever feeling you may be currently battling against won’t last forever.
“An unfinished product, always growing, learning and experiencing. And by reflection we see, why it had to happen the way it did.”- The Spirit Science.
Whenever I feel rubbish, my good friend Alicia always likes to remind me that life is much like a roller coaster. Her exact analogy is-
“Life is a roller coaster. Sometimes you’re on top of the world and have an amazing time. However, sometimes you are coasting at the bottom, feeling low. What’s important is the people on the roller coaster with you. If they can make you laugh and smile when the roller coaster is making you feel low, they will be there to make the worst parts better”
Even when you feel relieved that it’s come to an end, I can assure you it was never a waste of time. Yes, even those periods of time you’d rather not think about because they make you physically cringe. It really wasn’t a waste of your time.
I’m sure I sound like a broken record but each and EVERY “failure” or plan that didn’t quite lead you where you wanted teaches you something. Good or bad- it teaches you what you need to know to better yourself or progress on in your journey of life (some extra mature cheddar cheese for you there).
“Someday everything will make perfect sense. So, for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason.” – Paulo Coelho.
A personal example I can use here to prove my point is the gap year I took after finishing my A Levels. At the time, I had no clue where I was going or what I was doing. Somehow, I ended up working as a Teaching Assistant at a couple of primary schools. In terms of career I could look back and say I wasted almost a year of my life. But in terms of growth and development I wouldn’t be where I am now had I not taken that path.
As cliche as it will definitely sound, I truly believe everything happens for a reason. Each choice we make or don’t make frames our lives. And so what if’s are unnecessary, for you’ll never know the answer. What you will know is that at the time, the choices you made were right at the time. No regrets!
Ciao for now x