Optimism is often seen as a ridiculous, sunshine and rainbows, point of view that strangely enough, pessimists aren’t a fan of. Whilst optimism focuses on looking at things through a “positivity lens”, optimism is also about being realistic. None of us can be happy and positive 24/7 – it’s not healthy or achievable. Obstacles arise in life, we experience difficult times throughout, and we will have days where we question everything, and that’s okay.
There are several advantages to being optimistic, including a reduction in stress levels, encouragement of happiness, helps us learn from difficult situations, and see new opportunities. So, how do we build an optimistic mentality?
- Make the best out of what you have. Look for the good in bad situations.
Making the best out of a bad situation, although hard, is all you can do sometimes. Whilst it may be tricky to apply this to every problem or situation you encounter in life, it’s certainly worth trying.
2. Surround yourself with the kinds of people that lift you up.
You are who and what you surround yourself with, and spend time around. Any kind of draining or negative energies will drain YOUR energy. Likewise, any uplifting or positive energies will uplift YOUR energy. The people we spend our time around are in fact going to influence the way we think, act, and feel. Choose wisely.
3. Fake it until you make it – with yourself especially.
In terms of self-love the best way to build confidence is to convince yourself you love every single ounce of yourself, until you start to believe. This is especially important on days where you feel the largest amounts of self-hate. When we feed our mind good, it tends to believe good. When we feed it bad, it tends to believe bad. It’s surprising what you can trick your mind into believing when you put the right amount energy and effort in.
4. Track your mental state of mind through writing “weekly reviews”.
At the end of each week, take 5-10 minutes to grab a pen and paper (or do this mentally if you prefer) and check in with yourself. Reflect on how you’re feeling emotionally and any improvements or changes you’d like to focus on for the following week. Look at what achievements you’ve made during the week that’s just passed. This, of course, can be adapted to suit what you prefer – a daily, weekly, fortnightly or monthly review. Reflection enables an overall better sense of self and an awareness of how we’re keeping mentally whilst allowing room for improvement.
5. It’s okay to have a bad day – it’s okay to not be positive all the time.
Sometimes we put too much pressure on ourselves to live a perfect life, be happy, and stay positive constantly, when in reality, it’s normal to have a bad few hours or days. You’re allowed to feel sad, angry, nervous, or scared from time to time. Give yourself a break.
*Please note I am in no way a professional. I write purely from experience and research. If you feel you are struggling to cope, please reach out to a professional*
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